There are some people that may strike our interest and we want to know them better and get closer to them. But sometimes it’s hard to do so because we’re scared to come across as nosy, rude or too fast. We want to gently and quietly ease our way in.
As someone who doesn’t easily open up, my blog theconsciouswhispers is my main medium of expression. People who know me in person fail at trying to get to know me and know me deeply or on a personal level. Only the ones that know what they’re doing can do this.
Why do you want to initiate deeper conversations with someone, who is that person and why does it matter?
Unless you have a genuine reason to connect with someone on a deeper level, then you shouldn’t. If eventually you will use what you know to harm the person in question then maybe you need to refrain.
When you want to get to know someone, especially someone who has some mystery surrounding them. Sometimes, not everyone wants to share everything about them at the get go.
First be genuine, like I empasized before, being genuine really goes a long way. Some people can sense when you are just trying to get something else out from them. This will encourage the to close off even more from you.
You need to be open, people open up when they feel safe. You don’t have to 100% transparent, you can just share something little and true. This works wonders, I tell you.
See them! seeing them means you notice, observe and acknowledge them. When you truly see someone, giving compliments become easy and deep. This way they start to develop trust.
Be curious, not invasive, allow for freedom to share or not. Sometimes the most profound conversations come from the gentlest questions. Ask questions and if they are not ready to share, do not force or try to persuade them.
Bring up meaningful topics naturally and start with meaningful questions, You can’t be be vague and expect a deep response. You also don’t have to sit someone down and announce that you want to have a deep talk. Let it happen naturally. Mention something you’ve been thinking about, plant a seed. If they’re open, they’ll join in.
Hold space for silence, Silence isn’t awkward unless we label it that way. Sometimes, sitting in a little quiet allows emotions to rise. If you can hold space without rushing to fill it, you make room for something more genuine to surface.
Take advantage of shared experiences, Bring up a movie, podcast, or post that resonated with you and ask what they think. “I saw something the other day that made me think about how we all deal with stress differently. How do you usually process things when you’re overwhelmed?” This turns casual conversation into something thoughtful.
Feel the energy, Don’t force energy. Trust the natural flow and go with it. If the vibe feels light, let it stay light. If it starts to deepen, don’t shy away. People feel when you’re being present, when you’re truly listening. That, more than any perfect question, creates connection.
Conclusion
The truth is, deeper conversations doesn’t have to be heavy or intimidating. With a little softness, intention, and presence, they can flow effortlessly. You don’t have to force anything or overthink every word. You just need to show up as your full self and create space for someone else to do the same.
