Singleness is a gift, Oh yes, I said it. It is a time you dedicate to yourself while waiting for that unconditional love. The period of singleness is not a time to sulk up, be sad and spend time pursuing useless situationships that you know too well wont end in anything good. The time you spend alone is a time to love, build and heal yourself.
A relationship is not about finding someone to complete you, its about finding someone who complements you. If love finds you at any point in time, take the opportunity and grow in love but dont spend your time looking for man because it is a man that is supposed to look for you.
YOUR SINGLE ERA;
are your glory days, a time of freedom and endless adventures, it is a time to heal, develop yourself, build amazing friendships, evolve as much as you want and most importantly, cherish youself in every way so when this man finds you he will cherish you too (I wish someone had told me this back in uni, but of course its not too late ).
Non understanding this will put you in compromising situations and teach you lessons you didnt need to learn.
What kind of relationship, really?
Let me start by stating that the kind of relationship you desire determines if this post is for you or not. The kind of relationship in question, the one we are talking about in this article, is long term. A relationship of life long commitment, loyalty, patience, princess treatment and etc. One where you are cherished and valued as a woman. One where he takes you serious enough to make you his wife.
In this article, we definitely are not referring to short term flings, situationships, ones where you’re always second guessing yourself or his intentions about you and definitely not one where you are confused.
In order to avoid these things you have to know what you want and by knowing what you want you automatically put yourself in a frequency to attract that. That is why your single era is very important because, i is the moment where you lock in and align yourself to the life you deserve in relationships and beyond.
Now lets get into the main deal of the day; 15 revolutionary ways to spend your single days
ONE: Invest in your glow up
Your single era is the time to become the first version of yourself inside and out. This is a time to invest your physical appearance not only because it is a very important asset and tool but so you will become confortable in your own body. Taking care of your physical apperance can be divided into two (according to me); maitainance and self care. Maintenance has to do with things like your hair, nails, pedicures and make up while self care involves more intrinsic and sensitive aspects like going to the gym/pilates, taking your supplements, skin care and hygeine.
TWO: Be the IT girl
Being the “IT girl” isn’t about trends, it’s about becoming a woman who commands attention because of her confidence, grace, and self-worth. This is your time to set the standard for how you want to be treated, carry yourself with elegance, and live life unapologetically.
To be an “IT girl”, you must learn etiquette, manners, social skills and basic life skills that could enable you to embody this powerful feminine persona.
THREE: Learn a hobby
A hobby adds depth to your life and keeps you from idleness and of course waiting for “him” to text you. I enjoy riding bikes, reading, shopping and cooking but whatever the hobby is, having a passion outside of relationships (whether romantic, familial or just friendships) helps build your identity and keeps yo happy.
FOUR: Travel and Explore
Use your freedom to see new places and experience different cultures. Traveling broadens your perspective, builds independence, and adds unforgettable experiences to your life. You’re not waiting for a partner to take you places, you’re taking yourself!
FIVE: Develop a consistent routine
Discipline is self-love. Creating a daily routine helps you build stability and structure in your life, which will carry over into your relationships and future endeavors. Whether it’s a morning ritual, fitness schedule, or self-care practices, consistency is key.
Ensure that you have things that you do that cannot be compromised. if you work out three times a week, make sure that it fits into your routine in the long run and under every circumstances. This routines will solidify your time and keep you grounded in yourself.
SIX: Learn something intellectual
Your mind is your power. Take a course, read books, or dive into a subject that challenges you. The more knowledge you have, the more you can contribute to conversations, make informed decisions, and become a woman of depth and wisdom.
SEVEN: Expand your Network
The people you surround yourself with shape your future. Make meaningful connections, attend events, and build relationships with people who inspire and support your growth. Your network is your net worth.
EIGHT: Become a woman of depth
Surface-level attraction fades, but depth lasts forever. Cultivate strong values, self-awareness, and emotional intelligence. Be the kind of woman who leaves an impact with her presence, wisdom, and authenticity.
NINE: Look into your mental and physical health
Prioritize your well-being. Heal past wounds, go to therapy if needed, and take care of your body through exercise and good nutrition. A healthy mind and body set the foundation for a fulfilling life and strong relationships.
Carry out annual full body check ups to ensure that you are always fine. Also, look into your reproductive health from time to time as this affects a womans life greatly, remember to keep up with your vitamins and proritize dental health as well.
TEN: Master your emotions
Emotional maturity is everything. Learn how to maintain stillness and calm instead of hyper-reacting. A woman who has mastered her emotions is powerful and unshakable.
ELEVEN: Work on your finances and learn about money
Financial independence is key. Learn how to save, invest, and manage your money wisely. A woman who is financially stable makes decisions based on her values, not desperation or dependence on others.
I use trove to invest my money in online stocks and eventually gain interest, you should try it out as well and no! this is not a sponsored posts.
TWELVE: Heal your relationship with food
Food is not your enemy, it is an amazing tool to living your best life is done right. Heal emotional eating patterns, nourish your body with love, and develop a healthy relationship with food that fuels your energy and confidence.
If you have problems with over-eating or under-eating, seek help.
THIRTEEN: Foster nurturing and mutually supportive sisterhoods
Your female friendships are a blessing. Surround yourself with women who uplift, support, and inspire you. True sisterhood is powerful—it’s about love, accountability, and shared growth.
FOURTEEN: Become unbothered and unshakable
Confidence is quiet, insecurity is loud. When you become unbothered by external noise and other people’s opinions, you step into true self-assurance. Move with grace, protect your peace, and never settle for less than you deserve.
FIFTEEN: Get closer to God
Your spiritual connection will guide you through life. Strengthen your faith, pray, and trust that the right things will align in your life at the right time. A woman with a strong foundation in God moves differently—she knows she is divinely protected and loved.
BONUS: LIVE VIBRANTLY
This is your time to shine! Don’t wait for life to happen—create it. Laugh more, love yourself deeply, embrace every experience, and make the most of your single era. Because when the right man comes, he will find you already glowing, thriving, and living your best life.
Thanks for reading
